Certain forays into sexual territory, like attempting the bendy position for the first time requires nothing more than an ounce of courage, a bit of communication, and perhaps some decent lubricant. Other times, such as stepping into a sexual swing for the first time be a little more daunting.
A lot of people don’t understand what a sex sling is, and that’s why we requested Victor Tobar, national buying and merchandising manager of The Pleasure Chest, and fan of the sex swing to clarify. “My first time using an sling was at an sex-themed party in the dark dungeon in NYC. I was there with a friend who was also wearing the sling. I believe we were in a state of being nervous about trying something different, particularly making a public appearance, and extremely excited to experience this brand new type of bondage” Tobar says.
However, it really isn’t too difficult (nor do they only come accessible at sex events–more about this in the future): “Think of a swing on a playground but designed for people of all ages,” says Tobar. “They differ in their form, meaning that the person that is in the sling can be completely or partly reclined. Certain slings feature at least one or two points that connect to bolts in the ceiling, while others have free-standing frames meaning you don’t need to pull out your electric tools to get them,” He says. One thing that all swings share is that they allow the person who is who is standing on solid ground greater access to their partner’s body.
As getting into the flow of things (yes pun intended) takes a little preparation, you’ll need to first discuss it with your partner. “Introducing your idea your partner could be as simple as chatting about new ways to play or being about trying something new and exciting that will raise the intimacy you experience,” says Santos, an Pleasure Chest employee who’s experimented with sex swings in the past.
To find out the facts about the actual experience of having to swing a sex We asked experts for all you need to know before you attempt it.
Buy Cheap
So now that you’re in agreement What do you do to take your sex swing for a spin? If you’re planning to play with a sex swivel at your home, first you’ll want to go with a budget-friendly option, says Reid Mihalko, a sex and relationships expert as well as the the host for the annual Sex Expo. Determine if you’re into the idea before you invest in the most expensive swing (just be aware that cheaper models aren’t as comfortable and you might find yourself longing to have a bit more cushion). Sex swings vary between $100 and $500. up to $500.
Get Assistance
To find out how to get started take a look at the local feminist-friendly sex-toy store where you can talk to someone who is more knowledgeable instead of Google suggests Mihalko. (He listed The Pleasure Chest, Babeland, Good Vibrations as well as Smitten Kitten as top picks in New York City.) Depending on the type of swing you get, you may have to do a little home renovation/installation, so for first timers or apartment dwellers, look for free-standing swings or slings you can put over the back of a door.
Trying one out for the first time can require a bit of troubleshooting–just like a swing on the playground or a hammock, it moves as you’re trying to climb in (duh) and get settled. “It required a amount of time to understand,” says Tobar. “A small amount of laughter can make it easier to try something different.”
Be Open To Experimentation
“People make use of sex swings for a variety of reasons,” says Tobar. One reason is that they make things more interesting. A swing allows you to experiment with moves aren’t possible on the couch or bed. In addition, he says that there’s a sense of bonding and power play taking place, as the person on the swing is less restricted in their normal position. “Most important, I believe that sex swings create an excitement and excitement. Being suspended, bound and at the mercy of your partner is a thrilling experience. In addition, he notes that the swinging process requires an enormous amount in trust and confidence, it could be a very intimate experience.
“My date in the sling gave me access to an array of possibilities because I was completely in control, and was able to design a variety of different sensory experiences for her. It was incredible and enjoyable for me.” Tobar says. “Something I enjoyed about it was the ability to create a lasting sensation that wasn’t only focused on penetration. Think massaging and mouth.” In the course of the process of penetration, that momentum is converted to more intense and straps to hold on to can provide the strength you require to stay in a position for longer, he adds. The most stable sex postures for swinging are ones in which the two of you face the other, with the swinging partner lying on their backs with their legs spread apart, and the partner standing is in between them.
Have Fun!
The most important thing is to “go into the event with a fun mindset,” Mihalko says. “Make this more of a playground excitement and adventure, and the hot and sexy girls will come later. Once you’ve mastered the art of it the process will gradually become more hot and sexier over time.”
Imagine it as letting go of your child inside in a mature manner. “I believe that slings are beneficial in creating a sense of release. When you’re in the sling, you are able to emotionally and physically lean into it and open yourself to different types of experiences” Tobar says. Tobar. “For me having a swing feels like a release. This is when I release control and let myself be in my body and to experience the many experiences my partner is taking the swing through.”
Happy dancing!
