You’d think that all this time spent in the house would make us crazy sex fiends. What else is there to do? We’re in the house with our families, our kids, and Netflix. Netflix and chill should be our nightly activity you think? Wrong. After a day of home-schooling, entertaining the kids, Zoom-ing the grandparents, and loading and unloading the dishwasher for the entire. day. long. and making phone calls with a baby on your lap–and then you repeat it each day!
We’re exhausted and sex isn’t something that we’re thinking about around the time the kids are sleeping. But that doesn’t mean you should put aside sexually hot life. Instead, you should follow these tips to keep things going.
1. Update your foreplay
Foreplay is not just an introduction to sexual activity. It gets your body excited and ready to spend this time with your loved one. Explore something new like an oil massage or playing a fun game (see the ideas further below!). There’s no need to be naked to be excited about sexual intimacy. Sexual sex is as much a psychological activity as it is physical.
2. Implement gratitude
The way you interact with your partner can be a large indicator of the current state of your relationship. When you’re happy sexually and you’re happy, it’s likely that your relationship is too. If your relationship is struggling, figure out strategies to boost communication and get nearer to one another. One of the easiest ways to do this is to foster gratitude. Be grateful for the small tasks, such as washing the dishes or making simple meals on a weeknight.
In the same way apply the same kind of gratitude in your sex life. Remember to your partner about what you like and what you like. Tell them that you’re grateful for their commitment to a good sexual life as well. It’s possible to do this by the act of sexting, while doing the dishes (the amount of dishes to be done right at the moment is unbelievable) or during sex or after.
3. Take a break from the bedroom
The the last thing we desire in our sexual lives is too much routine. The most effective way to stop it is leaving the bedroom. There’s a whole home or apartment to make use of it! In the bath (the slippery factor is a little challenging, but we’re in you! ) or in the kitchen, or the car (all those high school make-up memories) There are plenty of places for you to put it on. Particularly if your kids are in bed it isn’t a good idea to limit your options to the bedroom.
4. Schedule for sex
While it may seem odd or even routine Although it may seem odd or routine, scheduling sex can be an excellent way of encouraging both of you to have sex regardless of how exhausted you feel at the evening. If you mark it on your shared calendar or choose specific days during every week. be aware when you wake up that morning that you’re about to go out later.
If you plan a day be sure to remind your partner. It’s not just because you’re both likely to forget (which is the case) and to build the anticipation even more. Text them the morning of your date or even talk about it during breakfast (in codes, of course). Let you two get happy to be a couple!
5. Add sex toys
Sex toys don’t need to be used for play with a partner! Whether you and your partner browse a store (or site!) in a group (great bonding time), or you pick items to surprise them, there’s something out there for you and your partner. Adding sex toys such as a vibrator in your relationship could be a bit daunting however, if you’re in the same boat and don’t get caught up in too much, it can be an excellent instrument (literally) to get yourself and your spouse out of the rut.
6. Keep track of your sexual life
It’s easy to go a few weeks without talking to your partner when you live very busy lives. Apps such as Nice Sex Tracker and Clue (for period tracking) each have the option to track your progress in the form of a calendar view of your sex activities. If your stats dip it is time to start using these techniques to increase them! You could also use your planner, or even your regular iCal for this, but you may need to think of some sort of code (a amusing emoji, perhaps or a cute emoji) If you’re worried about other people looking at all the occasions that you’ve been having sex.
7. Don’t be afraid of quickies
Sex doesn’t need to be in a bed lined with flames and rose petals. Sexual activity can be equally thrilling when it’s completely unexpected or just happens to be spontaneous and doesn’t last all night long. Try having sex in the morning instead of after dark or when your kids are asleep. It doesn’t need to be for long to be enjoyable for you and your partner.
8. Make sure you wear bra
How often do buy lingerie all and then let it go to the back of your closet and not see the light of every two days of the calendar year (V-Day and birthdays)? It’s not uncommon, but instead of following the same pattern, make a point to actually wear your intimates. You can wear your favorite bra and panty set with your outfit, or wear your bodysuit with pants and an blazer for an evening out with your partner. In lingerie, it doesn’t need to be a awkward dress-up alteration when you’re about to get hot ‘n heavy with your significant other.
Naturally, if your don’t have any sexy lingerie look for something you’re interested in. We have a love for SavageXFenty, ASOS, Nasty Gal, Nordstrom, and Amazon (little did you know that Amazon has some of the cutest Lingerie available! ).
9. Make an investment in the purchase of lubricant
Lube is one of the least appreciated and under-appreciated products for sex that you should have to have in the arsenal. Some people believe that it’s essential to make sex comfortable and pleasurable however it’s an instrument that will help everybody feel more friction and less discomfort. We’re all aware of what is that increased orgasms and better sexual experience for all. If you choose to use an water-based or oil-based lube is up to you, however, make sure you don’t choose anything with a silicone base when you intend to play along with your favorite silicone toys.
10. Play a sex game
Get rid of the notion that sexual intimacy is supposed to be a just-before-bed moment with your partner. Sexual intimacy can be an element of your night’s routine rather than being a mere line item at the time you’re done. After you come home from work or right after your dinner, concentrate on your partner and you (or all of you–just because your partner is around doesn’t mean you can’t enjoy a game on your own!). Start lighting the candles immediately or shower, put on your lingerie and play a game with your companion.
The classic strip-poker (take off a piece of clothing every time you’re not right–I like playing this with a friend in a sport that’s called Uno!) is always a winner and we also like the game of truth or dare, playing with each other, setting a timer for 10, 20, or more minutes before getting going; or inventing something that works for you. Be creative and see what ideas you come with.
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