Every day in the UK, 13 men commit suicide. Phil Jones, Senior Lecturer In Mental Health Nursing, spoke to us about how men can look after their mental wellbeing.
1. Talk to someone
Men’s mental health is at stake when they are unable to talk to anyone. 40% of men say they feel isolated. It’s true that a problem shared equals a problem solved. Talking to someone, whether it is a partner or friend, colleague, professional or colleague, can relieve some pressure and may help you to get the help and advice you need.
2. Do not listen to the’man up!’ stigma
The phrase “man-up” teaches boys and girls not to feel emotion or seek help. Phil remembers his childhood as a child.
“I took my primary school on a day trip to a dry ski area when I was 10. I was back with a fractured spine in my tibia. I was a ten year-old and desperately wanted to not go to the doctor. So, I tried to get by it. I’m not sure what caused the defiance and arrogance, but I know that it was something deep within me. After much persistence, I finally went to my GP. Next, I went the the local hospital. For the next six weeks, I was in a thigh-high cast. I couldn’t have made it work… my tibia had been broken and I was in extreme pain. But it didn’t stop the fact that I tried.
“There’s been much talk recently about toxic masculinity. Although some of the messages sent to men don’t help and I’m certain some of them aren’t helping, the desire to keep it to oneself and avoid seeking help is likely to be a part. Many studies in gender have found that women are more connected and aware about their bodies than men.
3. Be active
Endorphins released by exercise have been clinically shown to make you happier, more alert, and more productive. Even light exercise, such as walking, can help improve your mood. Get active and get off the bus sooner.
4. Book an appointment for a professional
Phil has been a mental-health nurse for many young men. He’s worked with them to help them manage their own lives. Sometimes they’ve allowed him to help them. Other times, they had metaphorical collapse before accepting his assistance. Talk to your GP to find out if there are any other options.
5. Talk
There is no reason to feel that you must survive on your own, especially when there are support networks and societies available to help you. There are many people who will offer their support and advice, and each society has the possibility to build new relationships.
